beautiful gifts that any two people can
give, not just to the receiving family, but particularly to the innocent child.
We don't think anyone can dispute that. It has recently come to our attention a heart wrenching story of one broken family that made this incredibly difficlut journey. Although they each had a seperate journey and seperate stories, they both had the same goal; to give their baby the best. And in this situation, "the best", was a complete family, with a mom and a dad.
After reading the blog of the birth mother, Kari, it became VERY clear that adoption was the best choice for this baby. We are glad that she was able to recognize her immaturity and realize that she indeed was not mature enough to raise this baby and give him "the best". We were disgusted to read her words, as she expressed her glee in the deprivation she was able to inflict upon the birth father. At times her blog sounds more like a story of revenge unfolding instead of the true beauty and nature of the gift and journey of adoption. Our hearts broke for the time she stole from the father, all in the name of revenge. No one has disputed whether or not adoption was the right choice, but rather it is ethical to use an innocent creation of God's to hurt another. As you can clearly see on the giving father's face, his soul cries for the time that was stolen from him that can NEVER be replaced.
I am not sure who wrote this but it touched me in more ways than one. As a family memeber of Brandon I have only seen his side of things so I have tried so hard not to express my feelings about the things that were done. This day was one of the most emotional days I have ever experienced, but beautiful at the same time. My friend that has adopted said it was such an amazing experinece and I hope that Collins birthparents can say the same. In the end the thing that matters the most is that precious child. For Kari to say that he did not have to sacrafice anything was wrong. He sacraficed everything and so did she.
ReplyDeleteWe are all brothers and sisters and I hope that Kari can forgive Brandon someday just as we have forgiven her.
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ReplyDeleteThe whole thing was unfortunate and the two of them had a good 9 months to voice their thoughts on what would be best.
ReplyDeleteI am glad that people that are inside the situation more than I am feel that this was the best choice as well as both Brandon and Kari.
Brandon had a right to be there for his son, Kari had a right to be there for her son. I hope they both were.
And I agree about the sadness of using children to get revenge or hurt other people, which I don't feel happened here. I have been pregnant before and (personal opinion) if the father didn't ever call to even just say "..is he still kickin in there or what?" I would kind of get the impression that he didn't care. Or maybe just didn't realize how real the situation was of creating life. I hope he does now.
Is it really necessary to attack the birth mother? I have read her blog and it brought tears to my eyes. I saw no immaturity only strength, faith and bravery. Oh, how much strength it took to carry that child, give birth to that child and find him a beautiful father and mother to cherish him, as she does.
ReplyDeleteKari has a strong family -- she could have easily raised that child but she wanted more for him. She thought a loving mother AND father would be best for him and the circumstances between her and the father would not be best for the baby.
That is the ultimate sign of maturity.
To those who "forgive" Kari, you should check yourself. I doubt anyone on here is as strong as she.